As we roll into the weekend, I got to thinking about how weekend habits and plans so often get in the way of our goals. I’ve had my fair share of weekends that led to the Sunday Scaries filled with guilt, hangovers, and beating myself up. It’s not fun!!
At some point in my late 20’s, I started realizing that wasting an entire day of the weekend feeling awful physically and mentally is just not worth it! I think that’s the ultimate cure for FOMO. After a certain dose of wasted Sundays… you’re totally fine passing up that millionth bottomless mimosa brunch followed by all day drinking. Don’t get me wrong.. it can be fun from time to time, but spontaneity is the KEY to that being fun. If you do it every weekend, it loses its luster if you ask me.
This got me thinking about excuses. We all make ’em. And we have very smart subconscious brains that LOVE to justify our excuses so sometimes you don’t even know that’s what they are! There are many tactics to fighting those excuses and I wanted to share 3 of mine to take you into the weekend. #buzzkill #sorryimnotsorry
- If you tell yourself that you CAN’T do something… pause and question that. RARELY is it true that you LITERALLY can’t do something. If you are wanting to lose weight, or workout every day, or start your own business, or have a new hobby, or get a promotion… you name it, it’s possible! If someone else has done it, why can’t you? Oftentimes we just don’t believe in ourself enough. Or we might believe in ourself for a week.. or maybe even a month.. but after a few months you start telling yourself you CAN’T. It’s not possible. Don’t let that happen because in the end it’s just and excuse! And a very harmful one, I might add. Not believing in yourself is just not a way to live.
- Be VERY black and white about excuses. Own it. Excuses happen in your brain every single day. It’s probably IMPOSSIBLE to eradicate excuses from your psyche. However, you can make a decision to be very black and white about what is an excuse and sometimes choose to be ok with it! For example, when you hear yourself saying: “I didn’t have enough time”… instead just say “I didn’t make time!“. There’s something very powerful about A) recognizing that you’re making an excuse and B) owning it to yourself and others.
- Recognize victim’s mentality when it strikes. Excuses so often stem from a victim’s mentality. It’s when you start feeling sorry for yourself or jealous of other people or not holding yourself accountable of your own life choices that you will also find yourself making a shit ton of excuses. Look for the scenarios in your life when you’re playing the victim. Some key words you’ll hear when playing the victim are “should” or “have to”.. I SHOULD work out… or I HAVE TO go to work… STOP RIGHT THERE. You are in charge of your life. You CAN work out.. you GET TO go to work. Rephrase your thinking and get right of the victim’s mentality and many of your excuses will fade away.
I hope you go into the weekend filling it up with all kinds of plans that make you feel happy and satisfied and not conducive to those Sunday Scaries!
Let me know what your secrets are for getting rid of excuses in the comments!